No matter how stressful it was, there’s one work situation almost guaranteed to skyrocket your stress.
Yet it can be SO tempting because meeting quality men these days feels hard.
You’re busy with work all day long. And men don’t usually show up where you go on your off-time, like your yoga classes or gym.
But dating coworkers (the situation I’ve slinked into talking about lol) isn’t usually a good idea.
It seems like such a great idea on the surface. You’re at the same company in the same industry. You’ve got plenty of time together and so much to talk about when you get home.
Until it becomes a breeding ground for misunderstandings, turning your relationship toxic FAST.
Now what? You still need to show up every day and spend all day together at work.
Separating work from romance is smart for your sanity.
Are there exceptions?
Yes, of course. My partner here at Tuning into the One, Sunni, knows a couple who met and got married at a place he worked a decade ago. They’re still together.
But for every success story like that, there are countless horror stories. Dating coworkers is a slippery slope. So, if you’re going to do it, be careful. You may waste precious time much better invested attracting Mr. Right elsewhere.
Donald Trump’s stunner victory this week holds a major relationship lesson.
As we’ve seen peaceful resistance boil over into violent riots in some cities, there’s clearly a divide. Disappointment festered fast into resentment and revenge.
The ancient Hawaiians knew better. So if you’re ready to heal any resentment you have (a major secret to attracting Mr. Right), embrace their short healing “Ho’oponopono” mantra:
(Watch the video above!)
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
P.S. Have a question about this video or any other question? Then come ask in our Facebook group. I’m in there daily and look forward to meeting you.
Whether you love or hate Hillary Clinton, she’s got something many women dream about.
What is it?
Well, politically, she stepped out of hubby Bill’s shadow way back in Arkansas when he was running for Governor. She had a strong voice and used it.
She’s also had an impressive list of roles in her life… First Lady, Senator, Secretary of State and Democratic Nominee for President.
She’s helped crack the glass ceiling for women everywhere. We’ve all got to give her credit.
Yet her personal life has been a mess.
Bill was a skirt-chaser well after they got married. The whole Monica Lewinsky scandal was just the biggest PR disaster in a string of Bill’s cheating.
You can imagine the pain behind closed doors. And the public labels people put on her for “standing by her man.”
But through it all, she’s had one label so many women — even the Hillary haters — dream of:
Mom.
Hillary gave birth to Chelsea at age 32. She prioritized starting her family, even though she had bigger aspirations.
If you want to become a mom, are you doing that?
If not, what’s stopping you? Unless you’re planning on freezing your eggs, adopting or something else, there’s a finite time window to have kids.
“I need to find a guy!” is the most common answer.
Makes sense! So how are you going about it?
Many women are looping around in frustrating circles.
If that’s you and you’ve decided you’re DONE with it but want help making a beeline for Mr. Right, go here.
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
P.S. If we do a Soulmate Attraction Blueprint Session and you’re right for my group coaching program, you’ll get 2 Dynamic Date Planner sessions with me to plan any dates you want — if you enroll by this Friday, November 18th.
Women have found the date-planning guidance priceless for sifting our Mr. Wrongs before they wasted much time on them.
Some people are outraged. Some people are overjoyed. And yet a few others couldn’t care less.
This isn’t a poltiical email, so I won’t tell you which camp I’m in.
You’re also welcome in my tribe regardless of how you’re feeling about Decision 2016.
Especially since my point here is about how we react to events.
Much of the time, we way overreact. That only becomes clear when we can look back later.
Pretty embarrassing sometimes, isn’t it?
Sometimes much worse. You can do irreparable relationship damage.
That’s why I tell my clients all the time:
“Pause for the cause.”
When the heat’s rising in you in the moment, and you want to erupt on the guy in front of you, steady yourself. Be the witness to the energy in motion (e-motion) without exploding.
All too often, we’re reacting to assumptions anyway.
Like the “WTF” in the subject line. What did you assume I meant?
Maybe I meant “Wow, that’s fickle.” Or “When there’s freckles.” Or something else. 🙂
We don’t know what we don’t know. And what we don’t even know about is pretty hard to fix.
That’s a killer when you want to meet Mr. Right, because you could be making the same mistakes over and over without ever realizing them.
So if you’re serious about having Mr. Right by the holidays next year, and you want my help (at no cost), go here.
There’s a new dating app with a similar name. It matches you with men based on astrology.
Add that app to the dozens (hundreds?) of others already out there.
There’s one that shows who you’ve been near recently. Crossing paths is tres romantic, no?
There’s another that matches you based on friends of friends on Facebook.
Still another doesn’t allow men to even initiate contact. Like a Sadie Hawkins dance, the ladies get to do the asking.
Then there’s the whole universe of dating sites online.
So there’s no shortage of ways to connect with men. You can connect with thousands right from your smartphone.
Yet countless women still ask me “Where are all the good men?” and “How do I meet men?”
What’s really going on here?
Simple. The real struggle women have is sorting out who’s worth their energy / emotion and who’s not.
Which starts with clarifying what traits are truly good for you in a man.
That’s where I come in. Because the normal dating process can drag for for literally decades, right? How willing are you to plod along like you have been?
If you want results with men you can see and feel starting in days at no cost, go here.
A joke befitting a 4-year-old, but it’s too true in dating, relating and mating.
We are where we are because we’re afraid to take another step. We’re terrfied of life mowing us down if we dare cross the road.
No doubt you’ve been hurt before. We all have, some more than others.
Me? I could barely eat or function after my first wife walked out on her birthday in 1994. My body withered nearly 15 pounds in the first week, my heart shriveling like a raisin left in the sun.
So believe me, I could talk for hours about past traumas. But the point is I eventually did decide to get up and cross the road.
Of course, I’m *not* telling you to just go take a bunch of action. With 3+ billion men on the planet, lots of action toward an unclear Mr. Right can land you right back in frustrating loneliness.
Lucky for you, you don’t have to clarify everything or cross alone. That’s what my new group program is designed to help you do, more affordably than ever (with a whole raft of bonuses for our charter members).
Brrrr. The weather’s getting nippier. The holidays are almost here.
(Don’t laugh. Even Southern California cools off this time of year.)
How are you feeling about your 2016?
Celebrate your wins. And take stock of what you still want, including Mr. Right.
As motivation to have him in your life this time next year, what would you actually be doing with him?
Sitting down to Thanksgiving dinner with your family or his?
Sipping eggnog by the fireplace?
Going to the mall together treasure-hunting presents for your special somebodies?
Get super clear. And use all five senses to feel the feelings of your relationship.
Action is still required, of course.
And there are all sorts of trip-ups as you get up to speed.
One of the biggest is dismissing men too soon.
“Oh yuck, he has a carrot bit between his teeth.”
Yeah, well so do you sometimes.
“His feet smelled when he took off his shoes after our date.”
And yours don’t sometimes?
I’m obviously taking examples out of context, and you may not even have these particular pet peeves.
So take the lesson here instead. Don’t dismiss men the first time you get triggered.
Pause for the cause. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Give him some time to show you who he really is.
You want that too, right?
How many happy long-term marriages would’ve never been if either partner bailed within the first few dates?
(In case you’re wondering, my incredible wife and I both triggered each other up, down and sideways early on, yet we sensed a deep connection beneath the surface emotional chaos.)
If you want my help stepping into this long-term mindset and attract The One who shares your same juicy vision, go here to apply.
The worldwide women’s empowerment movement is AWESOME. Yet it’s also misleading women in a huge way.
The “You can have it all” message might bond the sisterhood, yet it doesn’t make any sense.
When you have limited time and energy, how can you have it all?
Of course, that depends on how you define “all.” From a spiritual perspective, you’re part of it all, so you can experience yourself as the All.
That said, after coaching literally 100s of women, that’s almost never how the message gets interpreted. So the message’s vagueness does more harm than good.
Especially when you’re looking for Mr. Right.
You’ve got to get clear about what you’re really willing to invest in the process.
Think on it for a minute.
You get up in the morning. You run through your routine. You dash off to work where you spend most of your time and energy. You get off at 5 or 6pm — or later?
How much time does that leave you before bed?
And how much of that time do you need for going to the gym, cooking, decompressing alone, prepping for the next day, etc?
Even when factoring in the weekends, you probably don’t have all the time you want to find Mr. Right.
Yet what about the family you want to start with him and the life you’ve been dreaming of all these years?
That awaits you — sooner than later if you go about it the efficient way.
That’s the way I show my clients. Which you can now access more affordably than ever with the launch of my group coaching program.
It’s not for everyone though, so go here only if you’re truly committed to having Mr. Right in your life ASAP.
