It starts with your Soulmate Attraction Blueprint, but that’s part of only one of the three pillars I want to share with you today…
(Watch the video above!)
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
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Video Transcript
Hi, and welcome, it’s Milan with Tuning Into the One. The place and space where you can find, attract, and build true lasting love, and today, the best way to attract a really good man into your life today, tomorrow, in the near future. How do you do it? What are the different pieces of that particular puzzle? Well, the best way to attract a really good man is to follow a very simple and basic recipe. It’s only got three components. The tools, the environment, and the energy. The tools are what you use in terms of getting yourself ready, in terms of attraction from the standpoint of going out there and doing those things that will let the man know you’re interested. And to find the right man in the right way in the right way in the right place at the right time, especially these days, why? Well because there’s so much on the digital dating front, and what happens is we really experience what I would call different degrees of separation when it comes down to digital dating. The best example I have is Nokia, which started in Finland, and the Finns were very challenged to speak to each other one on one when it came down to personal conversations. But something amazing happened when the introduction of cell phones happened. All the sudden, they started interacting like crazy because this degree of separation where they didn’t have to be face-to-face in front of each other, talking to each other, seemed to open up a whole new world of communication. So digital dating or getting out there and dating online is amazing because the opportunities are truly endless. The downside is that you don’t have that same degree of intimacy, that same degree of personability. You have a degree of separation with online dating. So you have tremendous opportunity, lots of different places and spaces to look. The difference is you really want to think about what are the tools you’re using to find and attract that good man into your life. What’s the environment like, and the third piece is the energy, and that’s what you bring to the equation as well as what you’re attracting in from the standpoint of the other side. So the best way to attract a really good man, a ideal dream partner, soulmate, is to think in terms of what are the tools I’m using, what’s the environment I find myself in, and what is the energy that I’m bringing to the equation? So know what you want in your ideal dream soulmate and partner, and the best way to do this is to do our Soulmate Attraction Blueprint where you find out the wants, the don’t wants, the likes, the dislikes, the deal-breakers and the must-haves. What you want and what you want in a partner. Then do the Soulmate Manifesto Magnetization exercise and this has to do with the energy. So the first part is really the tools, the Soulmate Attraction Blueprint and then the Soulmate Manifesto Magnetization and exercise is the tool that you use to ramp up your energy to be able to do it deliberately. In other words, when you look at your tools, what are you using? Are you just using online tools? Are you actually using physical tools in terms of environment, and that would be clubs, places where you can have hobbies or interests expressed, community centers for activities, organizations where you share the same values, beliefs, or your interests. So Sierra club, biking club, hiking club, walking club. All kinds of different places where you have clubs, organizations, and activity centers where you can find different environments in which to put yourself in aside from where you go everyday. The grocery store, the gym. Those are also great places to meet wonderful people. The difference is you wanna have those tools, the Soulmate Attraction Blueprint and the Soulmate Manifesto Magnetization exercise that’ll allow you to really build up that energy, and when it comes down to your energy, what kind of a person are you emotionally, physically, and energetically? Are you a happy person, are you a fun person? Are you a funny person, are you shy? Are you an animal person? Are you looking for someone to take care of you, or are you afraid of being hurt or having someone break your heart? Are you a thrill-seeker looking to have your bucket list happen like yesterday, tomorrow, the next day, this year? Next year, we’re coming up on 2017. We’re winding down 2016, so it’s important. The best way to attract a really good man has three pieces. What are the tools you’re using to attract and to use, to find that platform and that place? What’s the environment you find yourself into? Is it the online environment, is it digital, is it real? Are you looking for places in your local community where you can actually find common values, common beliefs, common interests, common hobbies? And are you putting out a certain level of energy that’s deliberate? Or are you putting out energy that might be a little bit desperate? Or are you putting out an energy that’s just disinterested and you just, you know, you’re kinda like, “Hey, I’m done with this. “I’m just tired, I’m burned out. “Too many relationship wars, too many “battles, too many scars.” Whatever your situation is, three things you wanna look at to attract a really good man into your life. What are the tools your using, both online and in real life? We here at Tuning Into the One highly recommend and very, very, very much believe that what’s going to work for tuning into that one is the Soulmate Attraction Blueprint as your basis of what you’re looking for, what you want, why you want it, and what that looks like, and then the Soulmate Manifesto Magnetization exercise, which will help you to powerfully work on your energy from the inside out to attract that very thing you want. And then of course, what are you doing with your environment along with those tools that you got going for you? Are you looking in the right places? When you’re online, are you filtering? Are you putting statements like I don’t wanna waste my time, I don’t wanna waste your time? I’m looking for a long time, exclusive, monogamous relationship full of love, heartfelt connection and then use the Soulmate Attraction Blueprint to start asking the right questions, reading into the answers and making sure you’re attracting the right type of person into your life. So until the next time, this is Milan saying join us in our private little group. The link is right here on the video, right below it, or you can join us on Facebook as well, and check us out on tuningintotheone.com. Until the next time, this is Milan wishing you an amazing dating experience and relationship mastery. Bye for now.
“Married. Couple of kids. Looking for some side action. Just kidding. Single. 3 tamagotchis. Looking for someone to bring to family events so they’ll stop thinking something’s wrong with me.”
The Finns are known for hardly talking to each other.
With frigid weather and only 17 Finns per square kilometer, they evolved to be rather skittish face to face.
Small wonder that Matti Makkonen, the “father of SMS (texting),” was a Finn.
The Finns embraced texting because of the comfort zone it gave them to chat.
Texting really exploded when Nokia (a Finnish company!) made texting easy on its phones.
So then you had Finns texting like crazy on Finnish phones.
Does this remind you at all of what dating sites and apps do for us today?
Striking up a conversation with someone you don’t know can feel awkward in person.
It can be a little awkward online too, but at least you have the physical separation. And time separation, since you don’t have to reply back immediately.
So talk to men in a way that’s comfortable enough for you.
As you relax into the process, maybe you’ll also start chatting up men in person.
Once you’re talking to a guy, whether online or live in the flesh, that’s when you get to see if he’s really what you’re after.
Of course, that means you have to be clear about what you want and what you don’t want first.
Want me to guide you step by step to that clarity with videos and worksheets? Go here.
Sweaty palms. Shallow breaths. Acid churning in your stomach.
If you’ve been on an interview for a job you *really* wanted before, you know what I’m talking about.
Been there myself.
You’re imagining how landing this job will change your life — the new apartment you can upgrade to, the vacation you can finally go on…
And how you’ll be right back to where you are AGAIN if it doesn’t work out.
Same with dating.
Women often tell me they feel huge pressure on dates. To look a certain way, to not sound needy so the guy gets scared off, etc.
But men feel the pressure, too.
We don’t want to look too needy, not “alpha” enough to stand out from the pack (we assume women can get all the dates they want), etc.
Awkward.
The pressure drives some women to drill the already-nervous guy sitting across the table with interview questions, to see if he’s got the right stuff. (After all, you’ve wasted time on enough men already, right?)
Nothing wrong in asking questions.
You’ve just got to do it in a conversational enough way.
You’ve also got to ask questions that really matter.
Which requires clearly knowing your wants, don’t-wants, must-haves and deal-breakers. (Hint: Many women — and men — think they do but don’t really. That’s come up with countless women in coaching sessions.)
So, if you’re serious about repelling Mr. Wrongs and attracting Mr. Right ASAP, then make sure you grab the FREE first module of my How to Attract Your Soulmate in Your Spare Time course.
You get the worksheets and videos with me to walk you through what you really want, all in one place for easy reference.
Your inbox is still piling high with discount offers for everything from clothes to coffee makers, right?
All stuff you’ll get a spike of pleasure out of for a few minutes or hours. (Maybe a few days if you’re lucky.)
We all do it. It’s human nature.
Being totally honest, most of us do that in relationships, too. Dating someone new is a thrill… until it’s not.
You didn’t come to me to help you find the *next* guy to romp around with before the fun fizzles.
You’re reading this because you want The One you can share your life with, to grow with and closer to so the honeymoon never ends.
Calling him into your life starts with clarity. And there’s no better all-in-one, step-by-step clarity tool than my Soulmate Attraction Blueprint process.
That’s why I’m GIVING you the whole first module of my paid How to Attract Your Soulmate in Your Spare Time training for FREE. You get the worksheets and videos with me to turbo-sift out what you really want, all in one place for easy reference.
You also get the Soulmate Manifesto process, which multiplies your attraction factor when you do it how I’ll show you.
Remember, these are the same processes that attracted Mr. Right for one of my clients in only 4 months. I’d love to hear a success story like that from you!
Their Photos app tagged two black people in a photo as gorillas.
OOPS.
That didn’t go over too well in the press. (USA Today, The Wall Street Journal and others ran full articles about it).
So much for employing the smartest people in the world to build the smartest software in the world.
Don’t get me wrong. Their technology is still amazing. It’s just nowhere near as amazing as human beings at some things.
Image analysis, for starters lol.
Software is also far from perfect at sizing up character, partially because it rarely has enough real-world data.
Your favorite dating site or app tells you he’s a 93% match, but you know something’s off as soon as you get on the phone.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt?
Too many women have.
I’m NOT saying to avoid dating sites and apps. They can be excellent tools. You just have to apply your own filters on top.
That’s where you need crystal clarity about what you’re really looking for in a guy.
Sadly, that’s also where too many women falter.
It doesn’t have to be that way for you.
Especially since you can get one-on-one help from me at no cost, if you qualify. It’s how I see if you’re right and ripe for my group coaching program, but you get all kinds of clarity in the process.
If you’ve ever found yourself hurt, wondering “Is he just another jerk doing a disappearing act?,” you’re not alone.
Find out the real reasons men pull away, especially when you’re just starting to get serious…
(Watch the video above!)
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
P.S. Have a question about this video or any other question? Then come ask in our Facebook group. I’m in there daily and look forward to meeting you.
Video Transcript
Hi and welcome. It’s Milan with Tuning In to the One, the place and the space where you can find, attract, and build true lasting love with your ideal dream partner and soulmate. Today, why do men pull away after they get intimate in partnership, in dating, and in relationships? Well, it’s pretty straightforward and simple. They get scared. They get intimidated. They feel hurt and wounded. They feel inadequate. They start resenting you because you’re a better version of a man than they are and they’re lacking in authenticity, in honesty, in transparency, and they’re just plain not responsible. They’re not ready. Something scares them. Something intimidates them. Somehow they feel inadequate. They get angry and frustrated at some situation or they get resentful because you’re either too much of a woman or a better man than they are. The blame, the shame, the inadequacy and the criticism starts coming across, and either their inner voice or someone on the outside, maybe you, has shared with them: “What are you doing? “What’s going on?”, and it falls apart. When men fall apart from the inside out, they pull away. When they pull away, they don’t communicate. What they do is they go into their cave. Remember, while men have left the cave, the cave hasn’t really left the man! And so, men grow up physically, sometimes they grow up financially and have incredibly successful professional careers, but what they don’t have is emotional success. They haven’t dealt with their Fisher King wound. They haven’t dealt with being Peter Pan and running away from responsibility, from growing up emotionally, from having emotional intelligence to be able to speak to you. In the sacred soulmate signals, the four core secret soulmate signals are connection, compatibility, chemistry, and communication. Connection is the place where intimacy is built. When a man gets scared or intimidated or frustrated or angry or feels inadequate or thinks you’re just too good for him, he stops connecting, he disconnects, effective communication disappears, and you’re left wondering why. The blame, the shame, the inadequacy and the criticism comes from his inner voice to him; or your outer voice to him; or once he leaves, you’re like: “What happened?” Why do men leave and pull away after they’ve gotten intimate? The real reason is they haven’t grown up emotionally. They haven’t learned how to communicate. They don’t trust that the process will work out. That’s why the four core sacred soulmate signals are so essential. Building connection, exploring compatibility, and making sure you’re using effective communication to have that compatibility absolutely explored before you explode the chemistry that’s there, because once you are bonded through exploding the chemistry and physically sharing, then the oxytocin or the dopamine and all the other stuff is just coming in, and you’re asking yourself: “What happened?” What happened was he got scared, he got intimidated, he felt inadequate, he didn’t know how to deal with his anger or his frustration and his resentment, and he just pulled away. The taming of the shrew is something that a man doesn’t know how to handle. And what that means is he doesn’t know how to handle the impact of seeming conflict or criticism in a way that allows him to stand up and be a man, and say: “Yes, I own my stuff. “I’m gonna come with honesty, transparency, “accountability, and authenticity to the relationship. “I’m gonna honor the relationship, “and I’m going to do what it takes “to make sure we get through this. “Whatever I’m going through, I will share as best as I can, “and we’ll move forward.” But once that blame, that shame, that inadequacy, and that criticism takes over, whether it’s coming from his inner voice or your outer voice, he starts bolting. And when he closes down connection, he goes into his cave. When he goes into his cave, his ability to effectively communicate disappears. So, have hope. There are real men out there. They know what to do. They’ve gone through their Fisher King wound, which is something that might have been around for a long time, some inner unhealed wound that got triggered, and they’re ready to deal with it. They’re ready to be honest and transparent and responsible, or they’ve dealt with it and they’re over it. They won’t bail. So, if you wanna find out more, come and join us in our private group at TuningIntoTheOne.com or click the link on your screen right now or below the video, and you can join us in the private group and get all of your burning questions as well as those questions that have been around for a while, where you ask: “Why do men pull away “after they’ve gotten intimate?” The hot coal, the push-pull, all has a way of being dealt with, especially using the four core sacred soulmate signals. Come join us; you’ll be glad you did. Until the next time, this is Milan wishing you amazing dating success and relationship mastery. Bye for now.
The Talmud is one of those ancient spiritual texts with timeless truth.
In case you’re wondering what the Talmud is, it’s a tome of laws and doctrines written before the 8th century, A.D. by Jewish teachers.
Amidst all the wisdom, this one line gets me:
“We see things not as they are, but as we are.”
I don’t know if the translation is perfect or the exact context of the statement. But it’s still SO true.
That means Mr. Right could be standing right in front of you without you recognizing him.
Why?
Even as a conscious personal-growth-embracing woman, maybe you’re projecting a past trauma on him, thinking he’s less than “marriage material” because of X, Y or Z.
Our beliefs shape how we see the world. And our traumas shape our beliefs.
But how do you know if you’re missing quality guys who walk right by you?
Frustration, anger, resentment, sadness… really any emotion other than flowing happiness.
In other words, no matter how enlightened you get, you still have to take care of your physical life.
You’ve got to have clean water, food, clothes to keep warm and shelter to stay safe.
Same with marriage.
What happens after you marry The One?
You can have the most lavish wedding and honeymoon you’ve ever dreamt of, yet that all ends.
So what kind of guy would you enjoy doing the “chop wood” and “carry water” parts of life with?
Way too many of us plan more for the wedding and the honeymoon than the cooking, the dishes, the laundry, the budgeting and everything else we’ll need for a healthy partnership.
(You’d be amazed how much fun my wife and I have just doing this “humdrum” stuff.)
We choose the wrong partners because we’re not thinking of the right real-life situations.
I’ve lost count of the women have confessed to this mistake in our coaching sessions.
Of course, many women feel less fun (and a lot less clear) how to pick a guy they’ll enjoy being with day to day.
If you’re right for my new group program after we talk, you’ll get 2 Dynamic Date Planner sessions to plan any dates you want. But only if you apply for your Soulmate Attraction Blueprint Session by tomorrow (Friday, November 18) night.
