A joke befitting a 4-year-old, but it’s too true in dating, relating and mating.
We are where we are because we’re afraid to take another step. We’re terrfied of life mowing us down if we dare cross the road.
No doubt you’ve been hurt before. We all have, some more than others.
Me? I could barely eat or function after my first wife walked out on her birthday in 1994. My body withered nearly 15 pounds in the first week, my heart shriveling like a raisin left in the sun.
So believe me, I could talk for hours about past traumas. But the point is I eventually did decide to get up and cross the road.
Of course, I’m *not* telling you to just go take a bunch of action. With 3+ billion men on the planet, lots of action toward an unclear Mr. Right can land you right back in frustrating loneliness.
Lucky for you, you don’t have to clarify everything or cross alone. That’s what my new group program is designed to help you do, more affordably than ever (with a whole raft of bonuses for our charter members).
Brrrr. The weather’s getting nippier. The holidays are almost here.
(Don’t laugh. Even Southern California cools off this time of year.)
How are you feeling about your 2016?
Celebrate your wins. And take stock of what you still want, including Mr. Right.
As motivation to have him in your life this time next year, what would you actually be doing with him?
Sitting down to Thanksgiving dinner with your family or his?
Sipping eggnog by the fireplace?
Going to the mall together treasure-hunting presents for your special somebodies?
Get super clear. And use all five senses to feel the feelings of your relationship.
Action is still required, of course.
And there are all sorts of trip-ups as you get up to speed.
One of the biggest is dismissing men too soon.
“Oh yuck, he has a carrot bit between his teeth.”
Yeah, well so do you sometimes.
“His feet smelled when he took off his shoes after our date.”
And yours don’t sometimes?
I’m obviously taking examples out of context, and you may not even have these particular pet peeves.
So take the lesson here instead. Don’t dismiss men the first time you get triggered.
Pause for the cause. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Give him some time to show you who he really is.
You want that too, right?
How many happy long-term marriages would’ve never been if either partner bailed within the first few dates?
(In case you’re wondering, my incredible wife and I both triggered each other up, down and sideways early on, yet we sensed a deep connection beneath the surface emotional chaos.)
If you want my help stepping into this long-term mindset and attract The One who shares your same juicy vision, go here to apply.
The worldwide women’s empowerment movement is AWESOME. Yet it’s also misleading women in a huge way.
The “You can have it all” message might bond the sisterhood, yet it doesn’t make any sense.
When you have limited time and energy, how can you have it all?
Of course, that depends on how you define “all.” From a spiritual perspective, you’re part of it all, so you can experience yourself as the All.
That said, after coaching literally 100s of women, that’s almost never how the message gets interpreted. So the message’s vagueness does more harm than good.
Especially when you’re looking for Mr. Right.
You’ve got to get clear about what you’re really willing to invest in the process.
Think on it for a minute.
You get up in the morning. You run through your routine. You dash off to work where you spend most of your time and energy. You get off at 5 or 6pm — or later?
How much time does that leave you before bed?
And how much of that time do you need for going to the gym, cooking, decompressing alone, prepping for the next day, etc?
Even when factoring in the weekends, you probably don’t have all the time you want to find Mr. Right.
Yet what about the family you want to start with him and the life you’ve been dreaming of all these years?
That awaits you — sooner than later if you go about it the efficient way.
That’s the way I show my clients. Which you can now access more affordably than ever with the launch of my group coaching program.
It’s not for everyone though, so go here only if you’re truly committed to having Mr. Right in your life ASAP.
You’ve got the energy right if you want Mr. Right.
To illustrate what I mean, here’s a quick example…
Some years ago, after a personal growth event I helped put on, I went to dinner with two of the key women behind the event.
Both were highly capable, whip-smart women who could rival any guy any day.
Yet when it came time to order, they asked me to decide on the food. They’d been making decisions all weekend, so they considered it a privilege to let me handle the dinner choices.
I got to feel in-service to these women — an extra honor because they were obviously capable of handling their own needs.
That’s what makes a great relationship, too.
You’re a modern woman. You’re out working, climbing your career ladder as high as you want to go and taking care of yourself.
We men do get that. And hat’s off to you!
Yet we still want the honor of helping you.
It’s like a dance. We want to lead in some ways, and you can lead in others.
Both partners taking charge to lead (the yang energy) at the same time just gets you bruised toes and a bitter heart — a big turn-off to potential future partners.
Worse still, when you’re leading in ways you want a man to, you’ll attract the wrong men AND bring out a version of even Mr. Right you don’t want.
Did you catch that?
It’s one of the biggest success secrets of happily-married couples.
They’ve sorted out who will lead when to feel in union (a.k.a. “yoga”).
For example, even though I love to cook, my sweet wifey often makes dinner while I work. We’re leading and being led in different ways, so we keep enjoying the dance day after day.
Yes, it takes practice. And there are a bunch of nuances to it.
To help you master the nuances and attract a man with just the right energy blend, you now have a chance at more affordable coaching than ever with me.
That’s because I’ve launched my group-based Soulmate Attraction Partnership with a bunch of juicy bonuses (including a couple of *years* of support for FREE).
If that sounds intriguing, first apply for a no-cost Soulmate Attraction Blueprint Session with me.
You’ll walk way with all sorts of clarity and a new lightness. You may also get an invitation into the group program at the end if your situation is right for it. The program isn’t for everyone, after all.
