He was a below-average wrestler at Glen Ridge High School in Glen Ridge, New Jersey, who desperately wanted to play football.
So little Tommy came to ask his mom before sophomore year.
Her answer was immediate. “No.”
She was terrified he’d get badly injured.
The same scene played out a year later, before junior year.
Again, Mom’s answer was the same. “No, Tommy.”
So Tommy worked hard to become a better wrestler, since he at least enjoyed that.
And he did. Coach Corbo (his wrestling coach) even had high hopes for him going into his senior year.
But Tommy still came to plead with his mom one final time to go out for the football team. You can imagine how that went…
“Mom, it’s senior year. It’s my last chance to play football. You gotta let me at least try out!”
I don’t know what he said exactly, but I do know that he touched somewhere deep inside his mom.
She relented and let him go out for the team.
Guess what?
He made the team!
Unfortunately, Tommy got kicked off the team for drinking a beer before the game. He wasn’t the only one, but he was the only one who got caught.
And when we went to train for wrestling again, he tore a ligament in his ankle running down the stairs.
Tommy was devastated.
No more wrestling or football.
In senior year!
What to do??
After huge hesitation, he auditioned for the lead part in Guys and Dolls. That took a lot of nudging from friends, since he had little confidence in his singing or acting skills.
There was another gal in the play who was serious about acting, so her mom called in a New York talent agent to see her perform.
The agent thought she was okay. Yet she lacked the luster he looked for.
But he saw that special sparkle in Tommy.
The agent spoke with him after the show and said he should come study in New York.
Just three years later, little Tommy debuted in his first movie, with a famous scene dancing in his underwear.
Except Tommy didn’t go by his last name any more. “Mapother” just isn’t a cool movie name.
So he used his middle name: Cruise. And Tom Cruise’s passionate love story with movies was born.
Which goes to show, you can have horribly painful setbacks, while life is leading you all the while to your destiny.
All the pain you’ve been through has been for a purpose. Your Mr. Right is still out there.
Now reply back and share… What hurt is making it hard to share your heart again?
What do mango lassi and Indian sweets have to do with your dream man?
They’re yummy lol. But there’s more to it…
These taste explosions came to be normal in India over many years. So no surprise that Indian immigrants brought them here to keep enjoying.
My sweet soulmate wifey Nesit and I got to indulge last week at a fun event called India Night, put on at the Self Realization Fellowship (SRF) here in LA.
(That’s where I’ve been a kriya yoga student through SRF’s program for the last couple of years.)
Our heads were also bobbing to the Indian beats pumping during the dance performance. More rich culture brought over here from India.
Yet, just as Indians have brought their own culture, many of them have also embraced what others have to offer.
At least here in So Cal, you see them eating Mexican food, Chinese food and really everything else under the sun.
Because everyone has something special to share.
So it’s wasn’t a huge surprise to meet a Ukranian woman at the event who married an Indian man.
Still a little uncommon, yes, but people are increasingly seeing The Truth:
There’s only ONE race. The human race.
We’re spiritual beings having this human experience.
Which also means your soulmate could come packaged in a body you didn’t expect.
That’s part of life’s Magical Mystery Tour. While it’s fun and useful to imagine what your dream man might look like, it’s equally important to be open-minded.
Even with all the fearful talk about terrorism and politicians bickering back and forth on Twitter, there’s never been more understanding.
What’s more…
Just like Indians historically married only local people of the same caste, profession, same religious subsect, etc., but now marry for love (many of them, at least)…
Who you can marry and create a life with has changed in a big way.
Now you can find love anywhere at any time, and live the life you choose with that special someone.
So remember…
When you meet any guy and look in his eyes, be open to feeling whatever energy flows in that sacred transaction.
He could be The One.
Now tell me…
Have you ever met a guy you visually thought wouldn’t be your “type” yet felt a connection after getting to know him a bit?
Reply and tell me about it. I’d love to hear your stories. And I promise to reply back.
I have this t-shirt that says “I Speak Serbian. What’s Your Super Power?”
Yeah, I really do speak Serbian since my family is Serbian. (Some people think I’m Italian from my name.)
Anyway, the shirt is just meant to be funny.
Yet you actually do have untapped powers.
Including to attract and build a life with The One.
Lofty statement, right? So let’s justify it with some logic to quiet our skeptical minds…
You’ve been out on a date before? WIN.
Oh, you’ve gone on multiple dates before? BIGGER WIN.
You’ve written and posted a dating profile before? WIN.
You’ve messaged back and forth with a guy before deciding to meet? WIN.
You’ve had a relationship not work out before? WIN. (Priceless experience.)
You’ve sought out information to help you understand men, dating and relationships better? WIN. (You’re here reading this, so this one is a given.)
My point is that you’ve taken so many good steps towards being with The One.
“But I don’t have him yet, so who cares??” you might say.
Well, I care.
Because everything you’ve done has brought you clarity about The One you really want now. We usually find out what we want from first knowing what we don’t want.
Of course, we have to acknowledge there’s something (maybe a few somethings, like most of my clients) holding him away so far.
There are all kinds of energetic reasons why we don’t attract what we want.
As I briefly shared a couple of days ago, a caller on The Aware Show told me he was uncomfortable asking out women who likely make much more money than him.
Simply because he’s concerned any woman like that will want him to make much more money. If not now, then when they have kids.
Woah there. You see how he jumped several years into the future and decided the relationship couldn’t work, so why even try?
Reality is, that a given woman may be happy with him just the way he is. (He’s an Ironman triathlete who competed in Hawaii, so he’s so certainly no slouch!)
We all make relationship-killing assumptions like this without even realizing it.
That’s why today’s video is all about clearing that self-sabotaging mental “stuff” that may be repelling The One:
(Watch the video above!)
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
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Now onto Anita. As an ambitious professional woman, you can probably relate to her…
Anita just wanted to pay the bills at first. She had a passion for skin care, so she had the idea to mix up some of her own moisturizers, shampoos, lotions and potions.
(I’m a guy… I don’t know this stuff like you do, but that’s not the really juicy part… 🙂
Hardly having any money to get going, she went to a medical supply store and bought plastic urine-sample cups to package her homemade products.
Not exactly chic, but the plastic was refillable. Functional, frugal and genius for marketing, as it turned out later.
Still strapped for cash, she got about $6,400 from a friend in exchange for 50% ownership.
OUCH. Steep.
But she was able to open up her first shop in the summer of 1976, right in between two funeral parlors (rather controversial because her shop was so sensual).
It was a humble start. But people trickled in look and around. Some even bought.
Anita offered discounted product refills in the cups if people brought them back, which customers loved.
The Body Shop was born and multiplied over the years into a global empire.
No, it wasn’t a straight line up to success. The business struggled through nearly all the growing pains any business does.
For example, Anita went from scarcely having structure to attending meetings about almost every detail. She once said, “We can’t fart without calling a meeting.”
And when the company launched in the U.S. (Anita started it in the U.K., where she lived), it struggled even after investing hugely in the launch. Well-trenched companies like Bath & Body Works made life hard.
Yet Anita Roddick not only became a billionaire, she also became a flagbearer for corporate social responsibility and green consumerism worldwide.
And she had a wonderful husband plus two kids to share the journey with.
But she only lived her dream because she was willing to start, fail and find ways to get back on track.
Relationships are no different, including attracting and building your dream relationship with The One.
The good news: You’ve already started.
And you’ve probably had a bunch of successes, which you haven’t fully given yourself credit for.
Of course, you’re here because the ultimate success has eluded you so far.
My mission in life is to help you finally meet and marry The One.
The clock is ticking, and I don’t know when I’ll offer these sessions again to my whole audience, since it requires blocking off a bunch of time. So seize the moment!
