Why do men pull away?
I break from standard belief on this, so I’d love to hear how much your experience jives (reply back and share)…
Before I dive in, let’s acknowledge that this topic is touchy.
In my Facebook group and elsewhere, I’ve seen comments about men like:
“They all lie.”
“I’ve been hurt and cheated on and played with a lot.”
“They say they want a relationship, but they just want sex.”
Ouch.
Yeah, there are guys that pathologically lie. Sad but true. And they give the rest of us a bad name.
Some of the guys who lie don’t care about women. Some even secretly despise women.
Maybe their moms were cruel and they’re unconsciously getting their revenge. Who knows.
Yet others are (ironically) lying because they *do* care and don’t want to hurt your feelings.
That’s sometimes why men say they’ll call and then don’t. They think it’s the polite thing to do.
Either way, habitually lying is no bueno in my book.
But what if a seemingly good guy suddenly pulls away?
Common wisdom says “He outed himself. He’s really just another jerk who seemed good for awhile. Forget him and move along.”
Maybe. If he’s really one of those liars we just talked about.
But most guys pull away for a completely different reason.
It’s just how we men process. We retreat to think about what’s happened and what to do next.
In other words, we’ve left the cave, yet the cave hasn’t left us in some ways.
In that same vein, a guy may pull away if he feels like he can’t make you happy.
Men want to feel capable of taking good care of you (even if you don’t need us to), which includes making you happy.
Once you get this, you don’t need to freak out when a guy pulls away.
Because you can ask him how much time / space he needs.
If he’s a good communicator (a great trait for Mr. Right to have), he’ll give you some idea.
That’s where you can dial the Connection down for awhile instead of switching it off completely.
So what’s been your experience?
Reply and let me know. I promise to reply back.
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
