That’s what the National Marriage Project calls an ironic research finding about unhappiness in marriages.
They’re referring to Las Vegas’ unofficial motto:
“What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.”
Catchy, but incredibly dumb.
Even if nobody else finds out what we do in Vegas, *we* still know, right?
The guilt, the shame, the hiding… it all hurts us later.
You can’t build a thick brick wall around your heart and have deep, intimate connection.
Anyway, the Vegas fallacy isn’t just about what we regret from the past…
The National Marriage Project’s research found that people with more previous relationship experience were — on average — unhappier in their marriages.
The causes? They weren’t quite so clear, but they guessed that having more previous partners led to more comparisons between then and now.
The people also had more experience ending relationships, so they might’ve been thinking about ending this relationship, too. Just the thought can make someone feel imprisoned.
So there’s another reason, based on research, why just dating lots of men won’t directly lead you to Mr. Right.
The self-reflection is the most important factor.
Take me, for example. I was married twice before meeting my beautiful sweet Nesit. (And she was, too!)
If we both didn’t do our inner work to heal our wounds and evolve as people, we may have never met.
I want you to meet your Mr. Right ASAP. So let me make the self-reflection part easy, by gifting you the whole first module of my How to Attract Your Soulmate in Your Spare Time course.
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
