Have you heard the sad news about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie?
Even if you have, you haven’t heard the real inside story.
The speculation is rampant why Angie stormed away with the kids after 12 years.
The tabloids say Angelina got tired of Brad’s drunken tirades, weed abuse and escapades with Russian hookers.
Uh yeah… I’m not going there. I have no idea what’s true and what’s not.
Just like I have no idea what happened to Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez (“Bennifer”).
Or Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner (“Bennifer v2”?).
BUT I do know that tall tales sprout pretty fast when a breakup happens, even when the couple isn’t high-profile.
You know what else? The inside reality is usually a lot less spin-worthy.
Think of pebbles of pettiness and pissed-off-ness being thrown on a heap.
Day after day.
Week after week.
Month after month.
Year after year.
One days, years down the road, a couple more pebbles drop onto the heap, and WHOOOOM.
Avalanche.
Pebbles and boulders go cascading all over the place, and the relationship is over.
What caused the relationship to fail? The last couple of pebbles, or the whole heap?
The whole heap, of course. Yet people tend to point to the last couple of pebbles.
That’s why it’s funny how many dating coaches these days are teaching tactics like “what to text him to drive him wild.”
That stuff has its place. Don’t get me wrong.
It just misses the much bigger picture of what so many women long for…
Love to last a lifetime with a partner they can grow with.
So I’ve studied what truly keeps romantic relationships healthy over decades.
Why not model the success you want, right?
I had ample incentive! I was desperate to discover the truth when my two previous marriages didn’t work out.
Each relationship was about a decade, so my world crumbled both times. Just in different ways.
That pain eventually tuned me into what I call the 4 Core Sacred Soulmate Signals:
1. Connection
2. Compatibility
3. Chemistry
4. Communication
I won’t go in depth on these here, except to say…
Feel out the Connection first and nurture it.
Make sure you’ve got enough Compatibility (your must-haves and deal-breakers) to build a relationship on.
*Only* then, explode the Chemistry to get your relationship sizzling.
And consider Communication essential to everything listed before it. It’s like the glue that makes them work.
Or the acid that dissolves your romantic bond if you don’t communicate enough or in the right ways.
Which definitely happened for me before.
Thankfully, the Sacred Soulmate Signals are how my sweet soulmate, Nesit, and I stay like honeymooners even after 8 years. This stuff plain works.
Bottom line:
If you find a guy who’s got the right stuff when you’re dating, he’s much more likely to make a good partner for the long haul.
With that in mind, which of the 4 Core Sacred Soulmate Signals was weakest in your previous relationship?
Reply and share to help me know you better. I promise to reply back.
To sharing your life with The One,
Milan
